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The Daily Post: Apology

“Sometimes sorry isn’t enough.”

Having grown up in the sixties, when love was free and meant never saying your sorry, I thought she was speaking another language. She wasn’t. She meant it.

“Oh,” I said. “What can I do to make it up?

No response. My glasses frosted.

Seems to me it’s all about expectations. If I expect you to behave in a certain manner, to do a certain thing, when you don’t I don’t like you until you apologize. And even if you say sorry, I will remind you forever that it’s not enough. At least that’s how it feels.

Expectations are coins with two heads: Power and Control. Neither side works in a relationship, whether a friendship or a marriage. Expectations drive wedges between people, separating them, dividing them. Expectations end marriages, destroy families.

That’s not how Y’shuaJesus thought about the way we are to live. Our chief obligation is to love the LORD G-d, and to love our neighbors. Sure. If I wrong someone, I need come to grips with it and turn myself around. I can make the wrong right, if I am able. I can even express my sorrow. But failing to live up to an expectation is not necessarily wrong. It is not loving to hold something against someone for which that person may not be responsible. That isn’t love. At least it isn’t what I see as loving. Apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthian church about love.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

 

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